While you are standing at the end of the aisle waiting for your bride to walk towards you, he is the guy standing right beside you cracking jokes and trying to keep you calm. He is your best man.
Choosing someone to be your best man may seem easy, obviously you are going to pick either your brother or your best friend that you have been friends with since elementary school. However, your decision on who is going to be your best man should be based on more than just family duty or friendship. There are several other things that you should consider when choosing your best man that you may not have thought of. While it may seem obvious to choose either a best friend or a brother, it is important to make sure that they have the proper qualities to fulfil the duties of being a best man in the wedding party.
It is your wedding and the duties of the best man can vary based on your desires, but there are several things that a best man will traditionally take care of.
Duties of a Best Man
The most important job of a best man is to keep the wedding rings safe and then to present them to the groom at the appropriate time during the wedding ceremony. However, the job of a best man starts well before the day of the wedding. The best man will plan and organize your bachelor party and make sure that you make it home in one piece. This means that he should be someone that you trust. On the day of the wedding he will need to keep the marriage license secure and also help you select gifts for your bride from your groomsmen. If you have a rehearsal dinner he will be expected to make a speech.
In addition to being in charge of keeping the rings safe during the wedding, he will also be responsible for helping you get dressed and prepared in time and making sure you are relaxed during your wait.
Once the ceremony is over, the best man is in charge of transportation. He will be in charge of making sure that all of the wedding guests as well as you and your bride, make it to the reception. The best man will also typically make payments on your behalf to the photographer, celebrant, band, caterer, and chauffeurs. Typically, the best man’s speech during the reception is one of the highlights of the celebration.
When you consider the responsibilities of a best man, you may find that choosing your drinking buddy from college may not be the best idea. There are some characteristics to consider when choosing your best man. Look for a person that is a calming influence, does well under pressure, and is reliable, responsible, and organized. He should be friendly and preferably a person that your family and friends are familiar with. It is important to make sure that your bride approves of your choice as it will make things much easier.
What are your tips? What do you think a best man duties are?